New Year’s Eve is my favorite holiday.
It’s all about change, preparation, and celebration of the future. It’s a holiday that looks forward, that reminds me that anything is possible. In other words, it is a holiday full of hope.
And I love it.
Every year before the countdowns and the dropping glittery ball, I spend some time contemplating my life, asking myself who do you want to be? What do you want to do? What do you want to do differently? And then making goals for the new year, my annual fresh start.
This year, my goals turn on a common theme. And it probably won’t surprise you to learn that said theme is being sexy. Because in sexiness, there is cleverness, wildness, risk-taking, and whole-hearted love. And there’s no room for stress or anxiety, two of my frequent bedfellows who I’d, quite frankly, like to boot out of bed for good.
But, like when I talked about being sexy earlier in 2012, I should probably elaborate. In 2013, the year of sexy, I want to:
Stay strong and get outdoors
I love feeling strong, walking everywhere, being out in nature. It has been, hands down, one of the best things about traveling full time. I’m always motivated to get out and explore—because there is so much to explore. With that in mind, I expect 2013 to be full of things like skiing lessons, lengthy hikes, river kayaking, and maybe even paragliding and a crossbow lesson. Because awesome.
Live in beautiful spaces
One of the biggest contributors to my happiness in the past year has been living in really beautiful spaces. Like that top-floor apartment with a balcony overlooking the Black Forest, or the spare room in my friend’s gorgeous Parisian flat with its simple, tasteful furnishings and windows overlooking the Montemartre side streets, or the warm second floor apartment in Thun with a balcony (complete with hammock) overlooking Lake Thunersee.
Conversely, some of my highest stress moments were brought on by living in less-than-ideal spaces. Like when I had the bossy roommate or had to share a bathroom with dozens of workmen who couldn’t aim properly at the toilet.
With this in mind, in 2013 I plan on being intentional about living in beautiful spaces, even if it sometimes means increasing my housing budget and spending less money on other things. Where I live impacts my happiness to a large degree. And my happiness, in turn, impacts my work, my sleep, my health, and so on and so forth. And obviously being happy and low stress is much sexier than being anxious and sleep deprived.
Take risks and be vulnerable
Vulnerability breeds confidence, and so does taking risks (and finding yourself blissfully and surprisingly successful).
Fill my schedule with ongoing contracts
When I say “fill my schedule” I don’t mean “overwork myself” (just to be clear, because I obviously have that tendency), but rather that I’d like more and more of my contracts to be long-term and ongoing. I find that I work really well with agency partners and long-term gigs and I feel less stressed when I know where my income is coming from. So long-term contracts, I’m coming for you.
Do something big, charitable, and inspiring
I haven’t figured out what yet, but you know me: I care a lot about love. I care a lot about charity. And I’d like to live a life that matters. I already give 10% of my profits back to charity…but what can I do this year to up the ante? Any ideas?
Get my confidence back
At the end of the summer, I felt confident, sexy, excited. But somehow I lost some of that confidence as the year wound down. I can tell that I’m apologizing for myself more, being more self-critical, and I don’t like it.
So it’s time to start doing things that breed confidence. Namely: letting go of perfectionism, focusing on the positive, focusing on love, taking the time to dress well, and practicing self love.
Because confidence is sexy. And there’s such a thing as faking it not only till you make it, but till you become it.
What’s the theme of your new year?