Okay. So, this February I posted an article over at Married with Luggage about how I handled my nay-sayers and fell in love with my life.
Just in case you aren’t familiar with the concept of nay-sayers, I really said it best in the article:
“You know the ones: the well-intentioned friends, family, and even strangers who are concerned that if you start a business at 26, you’ll fail spectacularly and become a homeless vagabond. Or if you quit your job and travel the world for a year, you’ll get malaria and be eaten by a crocodile (possibly at the same time). Or if you get that English degree, you’ll work at Wendy’s for forever.”
Those are your nay-sayers.
Bet you have a few coming to mind right now.
Anyhow, after my article about nay-saying, I got a lot of emails and comments and social media notes from people who could relate. Some had been dealing with nay-sayers for a long time. Others were just starting to voice their dreams and feeling overwhelmed by the nay-sayery that followed.
And I thought…what could I do for these dreamers? Because nay-sayers can be a really hard thing to combat, especially when they’re important people in your life.
Certainly, I can write articles to encourage people en masse, but what if I could do something a little more personal? Like offer a little love to those who feel overwhelmed by the nay-sayery?
And thus an idea was born: today, I’m going to share with you one person’s story, their dream. I’m going to tell you that, man, are those nay-sayers out in force. And I’m going to ask you for a favor:
Will you pop down to the comments area and leave our new friend some love? Give her a little boost? Tell her your similar story? Tell her that she can do it?
I think if we stop every once in a while and tell people that their dreams matter, that the nay-sayers are wrong, and that we absolutely believe in them…it could make a huge impact on people’s lives.
So, please join in in the comments!
And without further ado, our first participant in the Anti Nay-Say: Libby Walkup.
Libby is a writer with a soon-to-be-achieved MFA from a top-notch art institute and she’s dreaming about starting her own business and building a life in Chicago after graduation before eventually venturing farther afield. She’s just started a little literary magazine and a freelance editing business and has been learning the art of bookbinding as well. She’s passionate about her dreams and is already taking steps in the right direction.
Sounds pretty good, right?
But she’s had some trouble finding like-minded people to encourage and strategize with her. And she’s afraid that she’ll get unwillingly stuck back in her hometown after graduation. She needs a little support from some other big dreamers.
In Libby’s own words: “It took me eight years after high school for the first move [outside my hometown], and I went back after a year with my tail between my legs. Two years in my hometown I used this graduate program in Chicago to get out, but am in fear that I won’t make it on my own and will end up back there unwillingly…I have resigned myself to the fact that I will have to form my own path in life and that few people can help with that path as a whole because they don’t understand it. I have had a hard time shutting off the naysayers…Because of the naysaying, it’s a struggle to believe that I can make it on my own and be a fully independent person, especially financially.”
So hop on down to the comments and leave Libby a little love. What do you wish someone would have said to you when you started your business or moved away or started pursuing your passions? (If nothing comes to mind, a healthy “You go girl!” goes a long way.)
Do you know someone who needs a little Anti Nay-Say love? Send me their (or your!) story.
* Photo on the right taken by: Jessica Fenlon.